“only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. and only through working on the self, can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others” -Harriet Goldhor Lerner
This world is facing a disconnection epidemic. We have no idea how to connect ourselves to each other or to our earth, and this is something I myself have struggled with over the last eighteen years of my life. I believe our isolation is the root cause of the turmoil on this planet as we do not see each other as equals, but as opposing forces that we don’t need to connect with to thrive. We do not look at human connection as an important part of our lives and walk through this world with our guards up and our hearts and minds closed off from each other.
Isolation manifests itself into insecurity, always. I for one, can contest to this. I spent so many years isolating myself due to a fear of rejection. There was so much time that I spent dwelling on who everyone else wanted me to be, that I ending up losing who I really was. I started to morph into this unrecognizable figure who didn’t have any of her original spiritual qualities and beliefs and I’m still to this day working on letting go of the insecurity I’ve held onto for years.
Now that I’ve gotten older, I’ve found that my desire to impress others has started to dissipate. I no longer feel the need to sway people to like me through shallow means of communication but instead, choose to accept and appreciate the differences between myself and others and value the similarities we also share. After I started letting go of my ego and my need for everyone to like me, I became much happier and in turn met people who are on the same wavelength as I am. One person in my life who’s taught me to speak freely and stand by my values and ideas is a woman named Nicole. I met her through work about a year ago and to this day have never felt the need to pretend I’m someone I’m not with her, something I never thought would happen in a friendship.
These are the kind of people you need to surround yourself with; humans who have inner-radiance and beauty and accept you for all that you are. You want people in your life that get excited about the things that you cherish and consistently lift you up to your higher self. Life is about supporting one another through all of the weak moments. We are all human and we are all trying our best in this world. I never feel embarrassed to speak about my interests with Nicole and that’s something very rare and beautiful that we need in this life. Humans crave healthy and positive connection, but I’ve learnt that we also need to interact with people we don’t get along with to learn a lesson on tolerance and acceptance of others.
Once you begin to devote your time to completely encompassing yourself with love, you will see a change in your connection with others. When you are happy and feeling fulfilled and over-flowing with radiance and love for the world as well as the people in it, you will connect easier to others and the universe will bestow upon you more gifts than you could have ever dreamed of. Write a list of the things and the people you are grateful for today; even better, tell them. Give them a warm smile and acknowledge their beautiful presence in your life. Your love for others will return to you in ten-fold.
All my love,